So...I'm Back.... from being back, from being back....from being back. And I promise I'm back this time, until the next time at least.
Let's take a moment to talk about the dumbest disease that any of us do... New Year New Me-Itis... Oh yes I watched a doctor on TV once and checked WebMD, I'm basically a professional.
For those of you who are unfamiliar with this goal crushing disease, it has 3 really defining traits. You may see 1, 2, or all 3 of them, but all of them can be cancerous to your aspirations.
1. Loftiness... In my opinion this one is the most common. We all do it from time to time, we set goals that are way beyond reason, more often than not with no comprehension on how to even get to these. Don't think to hard about this, you know what I'm talking about.
"I'm going to bench 500 pounds this year"
" Cool! What's your Max right now?"
"Do you train with any other good benchers?"
"Nah, but I watch a lot of Eric Spoto on youtube, and I bought a slingshot"
"Ok sweet dude, what color flowers do you want me to give your Mom at your funeral?"
It doesn't need to be that complicated either with a performance goal, what about every person out there you know that struggles with their weight? Everyone of them at some point in time said:
"Ok Damn't I'm never eating (insert tasty thing here) ever again"
Have you considered how hard it is to completely cut something out of your diet, and more than likely, one of your favorite things? Even top end Body Builders have cheat days, They have to, they wouldn't make it without them.
Now I'm not saying that you shouldn't "shoot for the stars" or that people haven't been successful with huge lofty goals, they often make movies about those people. Are they going to make movies about your life? Probably Not... ( I mean I'd watch a movie about Dan Tennison, but the rest of you are sh*t out of luck)
(Read in your best Movie announcer voice)
** In a world where one man must find his way... This Viking and his winged companion have traveled through time to modern day... Our heroes discover something much more death defying than fighting dragons... Getting a date for the Prom!!! From the producers of Encino Man and the director of Babe 2, Pig in the City comes this summers feel good movie, How to Train Your Dragon 4; Lost in the Future "The Dan Tennison Story"
That was long sidebar.... sorry lol
So how do we avoid or fix this loftiness issue. I believe this is remedied with proper goal setting and learning about what it takes to reach these goals before you set you embark on it. Talk to people who are experts in the field, people who have done it, coaches etc. Can that guy from before get his 500 pound bench?... Absolutely, but he needs to learn what its going to take to get there, and maybe stretch that goal out a couple years.
We've all been way too lofty in our goals sometimes... Including myself... I'm going to tell you guys a story that I've never told anyone before...
I hope Lance Deal remembers that, and still thinks "what an asshole?!"
2. Not Following Through. This has crushed more goals than Pele. We all know it, and probably have all done it in some way shape or form. The reasons/excuses are plentiful... It's not a priority, I don't have time, It's too hard, The weather sucks, I don't feel good, and so on...and on...and on. Sometimes life actually has different plans for you, real life gets in the way, and that does happen. But your real goals, if they are important enough to you, you can't let the excuses get in your way.
I catch some grief because I have no patience for this group of people who have this second trait the most.
GYM TOURISTS... You know what I'm talking about, this creature comes out of hibernation from January till mid February, never to be seen again until the following winter. (OMG this article is coming out mid February..what are the odds)
"But Matt, they're out here trying to better themselves, why give them grief" No They Are Not....It's a continuation of their weak drive to stick to the plan, and actually better themselves. Once you start making it to April...May...June... then you can actually see that positive change you've been looking for. I do not feel bad for these squat rack curling seasonal goers, and neither should you. Be nice to them... encourage them if you can... but don't feel bad if you have to tear them a new a$$hole because they walked across someone's platform mid snatch.
But we all don't have to worry about them for much longer, just like an old Cat Lady, they've given up by Valentine's Day. Don't be a gym tourist, if you're reading this, you're better than that.
So how do we combat this, for me this is something that is always on my mind for all goals, fitness, life, professional, how to make sure I'm following through. And for the longest time, not my strongest trait by any means. A couple things that have helped me and I try and continue to do.
Have a good goal plan, something you can stick to ( sounds familiar right?) It easier to stick a plan if you know what you're working towards.
Find a way to become more accountable to those goals, tell your friends and family your goals, put them on your wall so you can see them everyday, train with people who have similar goals to you, and the biggest one...cowboy up and do it.
For me surrounding myself with people who are also driven to their goals has been such a boost to me, helps keep fuel in the fire for those days I'm not feeling it. This is also one of the reasons I try and have my 7 person following online, when i put "pen to paper" for me that's enough, if write it down and other people see it, that helps drive me to follow through, one of the reasons I started Strong and Far so many years ago, and write for Forza now.
3. Arbitrary Dates. I've thought this one for some time. Why do you need a special date mid winter to start your goals? January 1st isn't some magical date that can only reestablish your goals. Your body doesn't know what day of the week it is, it's just a day. You don't need a magic combination of a word and a number to start your goal, the only thing these dates have is the meaning that we've put into them as people, they are just days.
Now I'm not saying you need to ignore your loved ones and lift on all the holidays and skipping out on your
wives/girlfriends/husbands/boyfriends to hit a practice session. I don't need all that blame pointed at me.
But what I am saying is, don't let the day determine your routine, you are in control, do what you need to do to reach your success. 4th of July, Fireworks don't start until almost 10pm, go in the morning. You know when Thanksgiving and
Christmas are, adjust your lifting and diet to accommodate for them. Just because its a Holiday doesn't mean you have to throw your entire diet out the window. If you're disciplined with your diet and planning, you can have nice full dinner and
even PIE. That comes right from the guy who owns the gym I go to, he is a dieting wizard for body builders, and is able to enjoy the holidays every year, because he plans accordingly.
I appreciate the 4 or 5 of you who made it this far, I reached to some of those die hard readers to see what they're plans are to stay with those new goals. Let's check what you guys had to say.
And my big closer... Denise Greene stud athlete in like 12 strength sports.Great follow on Instagram and is a fantastic online coach.
As always thanks for reading, appreciate all of you (3 or 4 plus my mom) Follow me on instagram and twitter at @MattHandThrows See you next time!
Former Track and Field athlete and coach turned Highland Games Athlete. Follow along for advice mostly through trial and error, and maybe a few laughs along the way. My mom says i'm funny and handsome, and obviously she's right. LOL